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At this point in time, in our
society, we have an exaggerated and
unrealistic expectation of avoiding
"mistakes" and becoming a success.
Rather than striving for enhanced and
improved measures, we suffer the
delusion of human perfection-which does
not exist. This insanity, consistently
pursuing perfection, is driving us to a
point of dysfunction and leads to a
complete sense of immobilization, the
inability to act.
The signs of perfectionism are obvious
even though they are often overlooked,
denied, and avoided. The obsession of
needing to know every detail, the need
to be absolutely correct, passing
judgment on your deficiencies, are all
products of an imaginary world of
existence. Perfectionists always assume
one choice is better than another. This
persistent compulsion to compare is a
never ending process.
Fear lurks behind perfectionism; the
fear that I may not measure up, the fear
of being wrong, the fear of disapproval,
and the fear of failure. The hallmark of
perfectionism is the avoidance of
responsibility. After all, this process
leads to the imaginary consequences the
perfectionist dreads. They do not want
to be held accountable for potentially
driving their life off the road.
There is an antidote to perfectionism
that the perfectionist is unaware of.
Choice equals perfection in that, every
choice has perfect consequences-good or
bad. No one is immune to this reality,
perfectionist or not. That being what it
is, we can then begin to gain a new
perspective. That is to see
decision-making-or choices-as
"preferences" rather than perfectionism.
One person's preference might be another
person's dread, and visa-versa.
So, release yourself from your man-made
prison of perfectionism. You have been
your own jailer. Perfectionism is an
illusion your mind has created. Seeing
that reality is the transformation
required to living a, "normal", life.
Remember this, "You are a perfectly
unique individual whose perfection lies
in being yourself."
V.P. Mosser
©2001-2008 V.P. Mosser
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