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Very often in life we are required to
act, to behave, to follow through, even
when we, ‘don’t feel like it.’ There are
obligations and expectations to and from
others, of us, to perform in some agreed
upon fashion. Some of us will do what is
necessary, while others will not. So,
what is the difference between these two
groups?
The difference usually boils down to
some form of commitment, conviction, or
dedication; it may even be a combination
of these factors. These are the real
drivers in life, the forces that propel
and push us forward even when, or
especially when, ‘we don’t feel like
it.’ They are the antidotes that keep us
engaged in our relationships with
others, and with ourselves. This is the
way in which we transfer trust and
confidence of ourselves to others.
Commitment is a promise or assurance, a
determination to follow through in spite
of whatever doubts we may experience
about an unseen future. You’re either
in, or you’re out—there is no
in-between. It is the personal belief
that this undertaking is so worthwhile
that you vow, no matter what, to press
on. You’ll accept no excuses—there is no
out available to you.
Marriage is an example of an emotional
commitment, a decision to a union with a
partner that is somewhat supreme and
special from all other relationships. An
intimacy is born out of this emotional
commitment and it ignites a passion
between the two participants that is
truly unique to them.
Commitment can also lead to a resolve,
such as that to an original mind and
heart, or to change the world.
Commitment is a personal decision, a
personal evaluation to a purpose that
fits with your life needs. A decision
creates a destiny, a destiny born out of
commitment.
Conviction is a personal commitment to
your own beliefs and values. Conviction
is made with the heart—not the brain. A
conviction means that you are convinced
beyond a shadow of a doubt, you cannot
be dissuaded, and you cannot be broken
from your persuasion on a subject. It
may often manifest itself as
stubbornness.
Dedication represents a devotion to a
purpose. One makes a resolution to
something that is unconditional. The
priesthood is an example of the
dedication to a set of beliefs and a
lifestyle. People will also often
dedicate themselves to a cause, like
Greenpeace. Dedication lies in the
promise of your time and effort to
something outside yourself that you feel
is important and significant.
As I’m sure you can see by now, these
are forces that serve to move our lives
forward in spite of our feelings or
misgivings and that facilitate the
creation of a life that you have
promised to yourself and others. These
are the stepping stones to a purposeful
and meaningful life.
V.P. Mosser
©2001-2008 V.P. Mosser
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